This week’s QUOTE FOR STRESS
“A wise man is superior to any insults which can be put upon him, and the best reply to unseemly behavior is patience and moderation.” Moliere
Nobody likes to be insulted or criticized and our immediate reaction is often to throw insults back again. But this can really make matters so much worse. It can lead to open warfare, ‘guns-a-blazing!’ When we defend ourselves it is usually our self-esteem that we are defending even if what the other person is saying has some truth in it! Think about it
- Do you agree that we all have a right to express how we feel? Tell yourself that the person insulting you is just expressing their feelings. It actually has nothing to do with your self-esteem. Rise above the insults and listen.
- The person is obviously upset about something. Try to find some grain of truth in what they are saying.
- Hear the person out without defending yourself.
- Don’t retaliate or defend yourself. Respect the person for having had the guts to actually face you with what has upset them. You can even thank them for pointing out whatever it is and that you will give it some thought.
As you respectfully listen, the person insulting you will gradually run out of steam and will probably thank you for listening to them and respect you for the manner in which you handled the matter. From personal experience, I know it works. Give it a try!